And it seems that I'm always asking some variation of the same question. But here goes.
Earlier today I had a VW tech come out and look at all my dubs. He offered advice on all of them, a game plan, if you will. We drove the 88 so he could experience what we were trying to explain. No issues starting.
An hour later, two tops, try to start, and it behaves like it's not getting any fuel. If I push the gas pedal to the floor, or keep the key in place a tad too long, it will stumble like it's gotten ahold of a drop or two of fuel, but then goes back to the familiar, desperate whir wwhirrrr whirrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
I'll email the VW mechanic guy, but in the mean time, any quick hit advice? I have hit this wall of exhaustion and frustration.

Bentley is here infront of me. I am thinking troubleshooting would go something along these lines:
1. drink heavily...
2. repeat as needed
wait sorry, wrong list.
1. Jumper out the relay, try to start? Cry if doesn't work since I have a spare relay.
2. troubleshoot the intank pump.
3. troubleshoot the under carriage pump
4. cry some more
I have a fuel pressure gauge, but I've not even taken it out of it's shrinkwrap. So I don't know if it even has a usable adaptor in there, but from what I read, I shouldn't count on it.
I have a spare in tank pump, I could swap that out, but hate to if that's not the issue. I just am unsure of the process of elimination.
I mean, is it smart to step through like that...check the relay first, then the intank pump, etc. Or would it be simpler to take the in line off the fuel filter and check the pressure there (assuming I have the correct adaptor?).
My husband says that when I get in this state I lose my objectivity and can't focus enough to trouble shoot. he's right. I'm just so frustrated.
Days like these I question my hobby.
Please someone throw cold water on me, slap me, and tell me to snap out of it!?!?!?!